tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6504469498403243043.post6025422383616487219..comments2023-11-05T05:05:55.923-05:00Comments on Unapologetically Female: The Problem with Mars/VenusTraceyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16772379845428202751noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6504469498403243043.post-37864675699998957682007-08-16T12:02:00.000-04:002007-08-16T12:02:00.000-04:00Tanks for commenting, Sage! I totally love your w...Tanks for commenting, Sage! I totally love your writing, and I'm honored for you to pop in here. <BR/><BR/>You're right about the statistic. There's no reason to think that even that three out of four have good intentions for answering yes, but the book sure made it sound like it was something to be excited about. I just surprised me that one of four really doesn't care about that at all. But maybe that accounts for that "one in four women is raped" statistic. <BR/><BR/>And I think I used "only feminist", because I tend to think of anti-essentialism as feminist in general whether or not a writer personally identifies as such. But you're right. I think there are plenty of people who don't identify that way who are entirely intelligent and capable enough to not reduce everyone to biological stereotypes. <BR/><BR/>Thanks again!Traceyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16772379845428202751noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6504469498403243043.post-37504528894947764212007-08-16T08:06:00.000-04:002007-08-16T08:06:00.000-04:00On "only feminist..." - I think some non-feminist ...On "only feminist..." - I think some non-feminist (or non-identified-as-feminist) social scientists are smart enough to be anti-essentialist. Well, I hope so anyway.<BR/><BR/>These books make me nuts too. And the results that 3/4 of men want the woman to like sex doesn't necessarily imply that they care about their partner's feeling. It can alternatively point to a need to be a winner in the sack - look how much I'm turning this chick on, woohoo I'm an amazing lover, blah blah blah. Their own ego boost from believing they're great in bed might be necessary for their enjoyment of sex. Otherwise, why do prostitutes fake orgasms for their clients? It's not because the client is concerned about <I>her</I> enjoyment.Sagehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14481252201307998355noreply@blogger.com