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Friday, July 3, 2009

Double Standards and Why Hot Chicks Date Douchebags

Have you heard of the new MTV series Is She Really Going Out With Him? It's the "hilarious and compelling docu-format show that aims to tear down the mystery behind pop culture's latest unexplainable phenomenon: beautiful and innocent young sweethearts who fall for self-absorbed, overly-tanned, tattoo covered douchebags."

Seems like the perfect time for this "Profound insight of the day" from The Apostate:
When a man falls for a bitchy but good looking woman, they don’t say men like bitchy women. They say men like cute women.

When a woman falls for a good looking asshole, they don’t say women like attractive guys. They say women like assholes.

Double standard much?

(Yes, I’ve been known to find good looking assholes attractive. No, I’ve never liked an ugly asshole.)

Women, being the sexual creatures we are, are susceptible, just like men, to sex appeal, and sometimes liable to focus on that to the exclusion of all other characteristics. When we like “bad boys” they’re not just any bad boys – they’re sexy motherfuckers.

But men are threatened by women’s sexual agency and women applying to them the same shallow standard by which they often judge us, so they pretend women don’t care about looks. They also want to paint women as irrational, which is the only way to explain why women fall for jerks. Never mind that the jerks are sometimes sexy. We’ll just pretend women don’t know what is in their own best interests.
Perfectly said. This double standard, perfectly illustrated by this new show, just feeds into the ridiculous notion that women are clueless about who to date and that Nice Guys can't win.

5 comments:

plumpdumpling said...

Except that none of the guys I've seen on the previews are in any way good-looking.

But I appreciate your point.

Tracey said...

Are they universally not good-looking, or are they just not our type?

plumpdumpling said...

Staten Island hair is universally not good-looking, right? Surely?!

Tracey said...

I've only seen one preview, but I have no idea what Staten Island hair is. Google leads me to believe it's spiky?

AnnQ said...

That's a fantastic post! I agree....Double Standards are simply ridiculous.

- AnnQ