"Miss and Mrs are marks of the old world, reminders of women's second-class status as wives-to-be (Miss) or simply wives (Mrs). If you are a woman who doesn't use Ms - particularly a woman under 30 who has never even thought of it - then ponder this: how do you want to present yourself to the world? Are you an appendage or an appendage-in-waiting? Don't be branded and marked by old-world convention."I've always liked the idea of Ms. There's just no good reason for women to have to be defined by their marital status while men are not. And both "Miss" and "Mrs." are too full of hidden meanings and connotations for my taste. Ever since I was a little girl, I turned up my nose at the idea of being defined as Mrs. so and so, ESPECIALLY when the title even deprives the female in the relationship of her FIRST name as well (e.g. Mrs. John Smith). Gross. "Miss" didn't bother me quite as much, but then again I was a CHILD. Something about that title now (even though I am not married) just seems so... infantilizing. I'll stick with the Ms., thank you.
"There is difference and there is power. And who holds the power decides the meaning of the difference." --June Jordan
Friday, June 29, 2007
Not just the magazine, but the title itself. It's something we tend to take for granted these days, but Eve Kay's new article in The Guardian gets us thinking again about what it means to call yourself "Ms.," how the idea came about, and what an important accomplishment it was for women when the title gained acceptance.
Posted by Tracey at 3:53 PM